What about temperatures and cooling? Everybody has been scaring me about cooling because my build is in a Jonsbo N2, which means the mobo will only get cooling from a fan I can finagle onto the passive cooling of the CPU with zip-ties...
Irrespective of TDP, these boards need some airflow on the heatsink. With a non-server case,
put a 60 mm fan on the heatsink as described here and call it a day.
... if that's the case wouldn't the 4C be the best option given that it will probably meet my requirements and run less hot, followed by the 6C and then the X10SDV-F in last place?
Only a scrub is likely to run the CPU at full power in a sustained manner, and then the D-1541 with more cores will finish earlier so it's not even clear that is will use more power in total.
Any option likely meets your requirements. The 10 GbE NIC, if present, is "serviceable" (
@jgreco) even though SFP+ is preferred.
The concern is price. Supported SFP+ NICs retail for $50 (Solarflare), refurbished, so the second-hand X10SDV-F with a NIC card looks like a much better deal than spending 800-1000 E on a new retail board—especially when said board is based on Broadwell-era SoC.
800-1000 E is also the price point for X11SDV (Skylake) and X12SDV (Ice Lake) boards… when available. These newer embedded boards are designed for heavier compute tasks, use more power, especially at idle, which is not desirable for a NAS, and are typically larger than mini-ITX so these would not meet your requirements. But the comparison makes it hard to spend so much on a X10SDV board.