What are the specs of your system, I'm very curious? Apparently it's fairly robust.
It should logically be faster with trim enabled should it not?
As for TRIM, it only speeds up writing data to the SSD. Even if you have TRIM turned off it will not stop your SSD from working, it will just slow down write operations. Keeping things simplified, your data is written in 4K blocks of memory on the SSD. When you change some data that 4k chunk gets copied to another 4k chunk (with the changed data) and then is marked as unused. During the write operation the data location must first be erased and this operation takes time (albeit a small amount of time but it adds up) and then the data can be written. To mitigate waiting for the unused 4k chunk to be erased the TRIM command comes in and will erase at a device level all the blocks marked as unused and not yet erased. Keep in mind that this is a very simplistic explanation. Real details can be found by searching the internet and you can also read up about Wear Leveling.
On the positive side, when looking into the Intel 750 (what an eye opener and could you ship me one for an evaluation? I want to evaluate if I could handle using it on my main computer system for a few years) it appears it has it's own internal garbage collection (GC) as well as TRIM support but even if you leave TRIM off, it should still work well using it's internal GC. If you find out TRIM will work for this device on FreeNAS, I'd turn it on of course.