Yeah... you are stuck with 9.x. Now, the question is "what version of 9.x?" because feature flags have changed with each release. If you've only used 9.2.1.5 then clearly you are forced to use 9.2.1.x unless you did the zpool upgrade without enabling the flags(pretty unlikely).
There's 2 things that concern me about this:
1. You claim to be aware of the reasons to not to upgrade to zpool version 5000, yet you clearly are on v5000.
2. You claim to have not performed an upgrade to v5000, yet you clearly are on v5000.
So here's where I can just throw my thoughts on the forums and you can do what you want:
1. You clearly have no option to go back to 8.3.2. You'll need to use a version of FreeNAS that supports the flags you are using.
2. If you go back to whatever version will mount the pool the command "zpool history" will have a date/time stamp for exactly when it was upgraded. If you boot from an install CD and exit the installer you should be able to do a "zpool import". If it's compatible it will say so. Now here's the catch. If you use a 9.2.1.5 CD and you've only ever used 9.2.1.5 and it tells you that you should do an upgrade to enable all flags then things are *really* fishy because that means something upgraded your zpool to v5000 that wasn't 9.2.1.x. More than likely this would be a scenario such as #4 below or something where you used another version of FreeNAS when the zpool upgrade was performed.
3. If you didn't do the zpool upgrade is there another admin that may have done the upgrade?
4. Any chance you played with some other OS for a little while that supports ZFS and may be responsible for upgrading you without your permission?
I'm *really* not buying that 9.2.1.x has done an upgrade for you. I'm not aware of anyone making the claim that it was automatic, it would be extremely irresponsible for FreeNAS to do that. I'm pretty sure I've used v28 pools on 9.2.1.5 and it didn't upgrade.
Anyway, you have your work cut out for you. I think its important to mention that even on 8.3.2 the RAM minimum was 6GB. So you are clearly below the limit no matter which OS you use.