Okay, the problem seems to be isolated to a connection passing thru a switch.  In my example below, 192.168.1.x is a 10Gb Fiber connection passing thru my Aruba s2500 (sfp+) ports.  The 192.168.2.x are a point to point connection.  The test is both directions from the Proxmox and Freenas.  As you can see, going thru 192.168.1.x network, it chokes at 1/3 to 1/2 speed.  Via the 192.168.2.x its full bandwidth. 
root@freenas[~]# iperf3 -c 192.168.1.9 -f M
Connecting to host 192.168.1.9, port 5201
[  5] local 192.168.1.32 port 49231 connected to 192.168.1.9 port 5201
[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate         Retr  Cwnd
[  5]   0.00-1.00   sec   498 MBytes   497 MBytes/sec    0    370 KBytes
[  5]   1.00-2.00   sec   514 MBytes   514 MBytes/sec    0    491 KBytes
[  5]   2.00-3.00   sec   519 MBytes   519 MBytes/sec    0    581 KBytes
[  5]   3.00-4.00   sec   525 MBytes   526 MBytes/sec    0    664 KBytes
[  5]   4.00-5.00   sec   530 MBytes   530 MBytes/sec    0    738 KBytes
[  5]   5.00-6.00   sec   534 MBytes   533 MBytes/sec    0    805 KBytes
[  5]   6.00-7.00   sec   538 MBytes   538 MBytes/sec    0    866 KBytes
[  5]   7.00-8.00   sec   538 MBytes   537 MBytes/sec    0    919 KBytes
[  5]   8.00-9.00   sec   536 MBytes   537 MBytes/sec    0    969 KBytes
[  5]   9.00-10.00  sec   540 MBytes   539 MBytes/sec    0   1013 KBytes
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[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate         Retr
[  5]   0.00-10.00  sec  5.15 GBytes   527 MBytes/sec    0             sender
[  5]   0.00-10.27  sec  5.15 GBytes   513 MBytes/sec                  receiver
iperf Done.
root@freenas[~]# iperf3 -c 192.168.2.11 -f M
Connecting to host 192.168.2.11, port 5201
[  5] local 192.168.2.10 port 29804 connected to 192.168.2.11 port 5201
[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate         Retr  Cwnd
[  5]   0.00-1.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1179 MBytes/sec    0   3.00 MBytes
[  5]   1.00-2.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1178 MBytes/sec    0   3.01 MBytes
[  5]   2.00-3.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1177 MBytes/sec    0   3.01 MBytes
[  5]   3.00-4.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1177 MBytes/sec    0   3.01 MBytes
[  5]   4.00-5.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1177 MBytes/sec    0   3.01 MBytes
[  5]   5.00-6.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1177 MBytes/sec    0   3.01 MBytes
[  5]   6.00-7.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1178 MBytes/sec    0   3.01 MBytes
[  5]   7.00-8.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1177 MBytes/sec    0   3.01 MBytes
[  5]   8.00-9.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1177 MBytes/sec    0   3.01 MBytes
root@freenas[~]# /mnt/barril/media/testfile bs=4M count=10000
root@freenas[~]# iperf3 -s
-----------------------------------------------------------
Server listening on 5201
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Accepted connection from 192.168.1.9, port 57854
[  5] local 192.168.1.32 port 5201 connected to 192.168.1.9 port 57856
[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate
[  5]   0.00-1.00   sec   303 MBytes  2.55 Gbits/sec
[  5]   1.00-2.00   sec   306 MBytes  2.56 Gbits/sec
[  5]   2.00-3.00   sec   311 MBytes  2.60 Gbits/sec
[  5]   3.00-4.00   sec   312 MBytes  2.62 Gbits/sec
[  5]   4.00-5.00   sec   310 MBytes  2.60 Gbits/sec
[  5]   5.00-6.00   sec   307 MBytes  2.57 Gbits/sec
[  5]   6.00-7.00   sec   311 MBytes  2.61 Gbits/sec
[  5]   7.00-8.00   sec   306 MBytes  2.56 Gbits/sec
[  5]   8.00-9.00   sec   271 MBytes  2.28 Gbits/sec
[  5]   9.00-10.00  sec   264 MBytes  2.22 Gbits/sec
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[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate
[  5]   0.00-10.00  sec  2.93 GBytes  2.52 Gbits/sec                  receiver
-----------------------------------------------------------
Server listening on 5201
-----------------------------------------------------------
Accepted connection from 192.168.2.11, port 42522
[  5] local 192.168.2.10 port 5201 connected to 192.168.2.11 port 42524
[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate
[  5]   0.00-1.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.89 Gbits/sec
[  5]   1.00-2.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
[  5]   2.00-3.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
[  5]   3.00-4.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
[  5]   4.00-5.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
[  5]   5.00-6.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
[  5]   6.00-7.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
[  5]   7.00-8.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
[  5]   8.00-9.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
[  5]   9.00-10.00  sec  1.15 GBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
[  5]  10.00-10.00  sec  1.19 MBytes  9.80 Gbits/sec
I also see on the Freenas console this message when running the iperf3 test.  I suspect that the limiting factor on the 192.168.1.x is the packet/sec.  I would love to know how to either eliminate or raise the packet/sec.
Jul 14 16:19:02 freenas kernel: Limiting open port RST response from 320 to 200 packets/sec
Jul 14 16:19:02 freenas kernel: Limiting open port RST response from 320 to 200 packets/sec
		
		
	 
Okay I missed setting the MTU on  the Freenas side to 9K.  Once that was done, I reran my iperf3 tests the issue disappeared.
root@pve:~# iperf3 -c 192.168.1.32 -f M
Connecting to host 192.168.1.32, port 5201
[  5] local 192.168.1.9 port 57866 connected to 192.168.1.32 port 5201
[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate         Retr  Cwnd
[  5]   0.00-1.00   sec  1.16 GBytes  1183 MBytes/sec    0   1.38 MBytes
[  5]   1.00-2.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.38 MBytes
[  5]   2.00-3.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.38 MBytes
[  5]   3.00-4.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1181 MBytes/sec    0   1.38 MBytes
[  5]   4.00-5.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.38 MBytes
[  5]   5.00-6.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.38 MBytes
[  5]   6.00-7.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.38 MBytes
[  5]   7.00-8.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.38 MBytes
[  5]   8.00-9.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.38 MBytes
[  5]   9.00-10.00  sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.38 MBytes
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[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate         Retr
[  5]   0.00-10.00  sec  11.5 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0             sender
[  5]   0.00-10.00  sec  11.5 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec                  receiver
iperf Done.
root@pve:~# iperf3 -c 192.168.2.10 -f M
Connecting to host 192.168.2.10, port 5201
[  5] local 192.168.2.11 port 42534 connected to 192.168.2.10 port 5201
[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate         Retr  Cwnd
[  5]   0.00-1.00   sec  1.16 GBytes  1183 MBytes/sec    0   1.29 MBytes
[  5]   1.00-2.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.29 MBytes
[  5]   2.00-3.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.29 MBytes
[  5]   3.00-4.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.29 MBytes
[  5]   4.00-5.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.29 MBytes
[  5]   5.00-6.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.29 MBytes
[  5]   6.00-7.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.29 MBytes
[  5]   7.00-8.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1181 MBytes/sec    0   1.29 MBytes
[  5]   8.00-9.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.29 MBytes
[  5]   9.00-10.00  sec  1.15 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0   1.29 MBytes
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[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate         Retr
[  5]   0.00-10.00  sec  11.5 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec    0             sender
[  5]   0.00-10.00  sec  11.5 GBytes  1180 MBytes/sec                  receiver
iperf Done.
root@pve:~# iperf3 -s
-----------------------------------------------------------
Server listening on 5201
-----------------------------------------------------------
Accepted connection from 192.168.1.32, port 14125
[  5] local 192.168.1.9 port 5201 connected to 192.168.1.32 port 47745
[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate
[  5]   0.00-1.00   sec   859 MBytes  7.21 Gbits/sec
[  5]   1.00-2.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.89 Gbits/sec
[  5]   2.00-3.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
[  5]   3.00-4.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.89 Gbits/sec
[  5]   4.00-5.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.89 Gbits/sec
[  5]   5.00-6.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
[  5]   6.00-7.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.89 Gbits/sec
[  5]   7.00-8.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.86 Gbits/sec
[  5]   8.00-9.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.89 Gbits/sec
[  5]   9.00-10.00  sec  1.15 GBytes  9.89 Gbits/sec
[  5]  10.00-10.27  sec   316 MBytes  9.90 Gbits/sec
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[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate
[  5]   0.00-10.27  sec  11.5 GBytes  9.63 Gbits/sec                  receiver
-----------------------------------------------------------
Server listening on 5201
-----------------------------------------------------------
Accepted connection from 192.168.2.10, port 47621
[  5] local 192.168.2.11 port 5201 connected to 192.168.2.10 port 21998
[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate
[  5]   0.00-1.00   sec   865 MBytes  7.25 Gbits/sec
[  5]   1.00-2.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.88 Gbits/sec
[  5]   2.00-3.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.88 Gbits/sec
[  5]   3.00-4.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.87 Gbits/sec
[  5]   4.00-5.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.88 Gbits/sec
[  5]   5.00-6.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.88 Gbits/sec
[  5]   6.00-7.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.87 Gbits/sec
[  5]   7.00-8.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.88 Gbits/sec
[  5]   8.00-9.00   sec  1.15 GBytes  9.88 Gbits/sec
[  5]   9.00-10.00  sec  1.15 GBytes  9.87 Gbits/sec
[  5]  10.00-10.26  sec   311 MBytes  9.88 Gbits/sec
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[ ID] Interval           Transfer     Bitrate
[  5]   0.00-10.26  sec  11.5 GBytes  9.62 Gbits/sec                  receiver
-----------------------------------------------------------
Server listening on 5201
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